It’s been about 2 1/2 years since my weight loss surgery and I’m having some struggles. I’ve lost almost 200 lbs, and I get lots of compliments from friends, family, but most of all Al. He loves me unconditionally, and I’m so thankful for that. The hard part is to admit that I absolutely hate how I look. The weight loss has brought with it pounds of sagging skin. Every part of my body sags, and I can’t look at myself in the mirror without loathing the look. It brings with it depression, loss of self esteem, and libido that has remained non-existent since the surgery.
I’ve met with a couple of plastic surgeons to explore getting these sags “cleaned up”, but the price is overwhelming. We’re talking $20,000-$30,000 to have my belly, butt, legs, thighs, arms and breast augmented to make me look human again instead of the Creature from the Black Lagoon. Some friends have said to take it one step at a time, but I don’t even know where to start. I hate it all. I don’t know which I would prioritize as needed the most… well, except the breasts are last. It doesn’t matter, it’s just not affordable no matter how I look at it. Even though Al is backing me 110% no matter my decision.
Al has been such a blessing. We’ve had heart-to-heart discussions about this, and the fact that I don’t like myself enough to even let him see me without baggy clothes. I know in my head that I look better, but the mirror tells a different story. I think in the very near future I’m going to get some counseling about this, just for my own sanity. Meantime, trying to keep my head above water and ward off the depression that is so debilitating.
Thanks for stopping by and taking a look at my blog. I’m going to try to write more beginning this month. I got so off track last year. Many blessings ~ Tamara